As women we don’t listen enough…
Pick your jaw up off the floor, just listen. I'm on your side LOL
Most of the time, we don’t listen.
We want to be heard without HEARING who the other person is.
Clouded by our own need for validation and approval.
THIS is what is keeping us in this loop of dating f*cked up Men.
A lot of women are unhappy, unsatisfied, in unhealthy relationships feeling stuck because truthfully, they didn’t listen enough. (Girl I'm not judging because I've been there many many many times myself)
We meet a guy, maybe he’s handsome, maybe we’re lonely, maybe we just want someone to f*cking hang out with (or f*ck with)..
So we go all in. We want them to know everything about us, wearing our hearts on our sleeves.
We tell them everything and they are listening. Excited about our desires, wants, vision and what the world has told us: be a good woman, get married and have kids as fast as possible.
We perhaps get wrapped up in their first admiration of us, a little too f*cking quick.
Because we often miss something...
they start to tell us who they are, BUT WE ARENT LISTENING TO WHAT THEY ARE ACTUALLY SAYING.
We don’t listen to their body language, or their thoughts, or their ENERGY.
We listen to their potential. Potential of what they could be. Who we think we can make them into.
We say "I'll make compromises for the person who gives me attention/admiration.. I can fix it later" (MISTAKE #2)
Clouded by our own desires, we forget to wonder:
Do I REALLY admire the person that’s right in front of me or just admire that they admire me.
(Moment of silence for some self reflection LOL)
Stop fucking signing up to be a build a bear workshop.
Honey, relationships take effort, yes, but do you really want to spend your life telling a man how to be … a man?
Taking broken men, fixing them up only to leave you empty..
The problem is you aren’t listening.
You’re wanting to be heard, and just because a man hears you doesn’t mean he should have access to you.
Just because a man admires you, doesn't mean he is meant for you.
YOU NEED TO REALLY ASK YOURSELF IF GETTING INVOLVED WITH THIS MAN IS GOING TO UPLIFT YOU OR TAKE MORE FROM YOU.
So ladies, for those of you who relate to this, I want you to sit down and do some self reflection.
i want you to start giving yourself the love, appreciation and affection you'd want from the RIGHT man. (Set the standard)
Write down some qualities you want in a man. STAY CLEAR OF THE MOTHER FUCKERS WHO OVER STEP THOSE BOUNDARIES.
No one is ever going to be perfect, EVERRRR, but there is a perfect person that is for YOU. & through the mess of life, your confidence in them will stand clear.
Through the mess, through your flaws (both of yours), through the miscommunications, the love will stay. You'll know that you can commit to them. You'll want to do the work because they are doing it too.
You want to sign up to do the work with the RIGHT person who has enough bandwidth and intelligence, you don't need to be the one alwayssssss pulling a man up when they can't do the same for you when you are down. (Or do it for themselves, ever)
You're worthy of some much. Believe it for yourself. P L E A S E
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